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Mentoring Guide: The Value of Being a Mentor and Having a Mentor

We talked last week about leveling-up your skills as a leader.  One of the fastest ways to improve is to find a mentor (and to be a mentor).  Whether you’re looking for guidance or sharing your knowledge, mentorship offers opportunities to learn, build relationships, and achieve goals. Here are some of our favorite tips for both mentees and mentors, so you can make the most of the experience.

Why Mentorship Matters

Mentorship helps you:

• Develop skills and confidence.

• Gain fresh perspectives.

• Build strong networks.

• Create meaningful relationships.

Let’s dive into actionable advice for both mentees and mentors.

If You Have a Mentor

Having a mentor is like having a trusted advisor who can guide you through challenges and decisions. Here’s how to make the relationship successful:

1. How to Find a Mentor
Start by identifying someone with experience in your field or someone whose leadership style you admire. If you know them, give them a call.  If not, reach out via email or LinkedIn with a polite, concise message. Share why you’re reaching out, what you hope to learn, and propose a brief introductory meeting.  I've been happily surprised by how many successful leaders are happy to help.

2. Set Clear Expectations
Agree on logistics upfront:

• How often to meet: Monthly or bi-weekly meetings work well for most mentorships.

• Meeting length: Typically 30-60 minutes.

• Communication style: Will you meet in person, over video calls, or via phone?  Lunch meetings are a favorite if logistics work out.

3. Prepare an Agenda for Each Meeting
Having a clear agenda ensures productive conversations (sharing this in advance can be helpful). A sample agenda might include:

• Quick personal updates (5-10 minutes).

• Review of previous action items (5-10 minutes).

• Discuss current challenges or questions (15-20 minutes).

• Set goals or next steps (5 minutes).

4. Does Gender Matter?
Not necessarily. Focus on finding someone whose experience and perspective align with your goals. However, some mentees may feel more comfortable with mentors of the same gender, especially when discussing sensitive topics.

5. Take Notes and Follow Through
Write down key insights from each meeting and follow up on any action items. This shows respect for your mentor’s time and helps you stay accountable.

6. Should You Pay Your Mentor?
Informal mentorships are usually unpaid, but if you’re working with a professional coach, payment might be expected. Be upfront about this during initial discussions.

7. Build a Long-Term Connection
Even after formal meetings end, keep in touch. Share updates on your progress to show how their advice has helped you.

If You Are the Mentor

Being a mentor allows you to guide others while learning from them as well. Here’s how to be an effective mentor:

1. Understand Your Mentee’s Goals
Start with a conversation to clarify their objectives. Ask questions like:

• What do you want to achieve in the next 6-12 months?

• What skills are you trying to develop?

• What challenges are you currently facing?

2. Set Boundaries and Expectations
Define the scope of the relationship:

• Frequency: Monthly meetings are common, but adjust based on your schedule and their needs.

• Availability: Let them know the best way to reach you for quick questions (e.g., email or messaging).

• Time commitment: Be clear about how much time you can dedicate.

3. Share Practical Tips and Experiences
Offer actionable advice based on your own experiences. For example:

• "Here’s how I approached a similar challenge."

• "These are the resources I’d recommend."

• "Try breaking this task into smaller steps to make it manageable."

4. Encourage and Challenge
Support your mentee by:

• Celebrating their successes.

• Encouraging them to step out of their comfort zone.

• Asking thought-provoking questions to expand their thinking.

5. Use a Flexible Agenda
A typical mentoring agenda might include:

• Check-in on progress and challenges.

• Brainstorm solutions or strategies.

• Provide feedback on recent decisions or work.

• Set goals for the next meeting.

6. Should Gender Matter?
As a mentor, focus on the mentee’s needs rather than gender. However, be mindful of creating a safe and supportive environment, especially if sensitive topics arise.

7. Reflect on Your Growth
Take time to think about what you’ve learned through mentoring. It’s often a two-way learning process that can enhance your leadership and communication skills.

Tips for a Successful Mentorship Relationship

• Be Consistent: Stick to your agreed meeting schedule to build trust.

• Communicate Clearly: Share expectations and provide honest, constructive feedback.

• Respect Each Other’s Time: Come prepared for meetings and stay focused.

• Stay Flexible: Be willing to adjust as goals or circumstances change.

• Express Gratitude: Say thank you and acknowledge the time and effort put into the relationship.

The Impact of Mentorship

Mentorship is a powerful tool that benefits both mentors and mentees. As a mentee, you gain guidance and confidence to pursue your goals. As a mentor, you leave a legacy by helping others grow while sharpening your own skills. Together, you create a partnership that fosters learning, development, and lasting connections.

Whether you’re seeking a mentor or considering becoming one, take the first step. The rewards of mentorship are immeasurable and can shape your journey for years to come.

Ryan Giles